European men dating style

Being thoroughly American (despite all the time I spend in Europe), my life has been a tribute to the American way of serial monogamy: passionate exclusive attachments, most of which have lasted about seven years.I am a bonder, a marrier, who marries for love against all reason and who stays as long as love lasts.It is just assumed that monogamy is rare, if not impossible, among lively people, and the question never comes up."Whether my friend's observation is true or not (for I have many European friends who do seem to care deeply about their mate's fidelity), it certainly does seem that Europeans see marriage differently than Americans do.Marriage is for stability, friendship, children; love is for the adrenaline highs and lows of sexual madness, the romance of being appreciated by anew person, the joys of flirting, pursuing, and clandestine coupling.Relationships, romantic or otherwise, are not labeled or defined as stringently as in American dating culture.In fact, it is considered proper not to tell anyone, even your parents and closest friends, whom you are dating or interested in.The American men I've dated were (coincidentally) all from DC.And overall, I found them swaggering, careerist, and utterly terrified of commitment.

"But, of course," he goes on, over a scrumptious lunch of stuffed roast lamb with wild mushrooms at Maxim's, "Europeans know better than ever to ask that question.Unfortunately, many, including a fair share of Black women, are buying into the false notion that we have a harder time finding love than other women. Folks are waiting longer to get married, instead choosing to focus on careers and attaining financially stability before saying, “I do.” Despite this, the media has played up the “woe is Black women” meme so long that some of us are starting to believe that Black American women need to go to drastic lengths to find a man.Recently, Buzzfeed’s Anita Badejo penned an interesting article about several Black women who’ve found love and a newfound appreciation for their beauty after traveling (and moving) to Europe.A look at the top five most notable European countries shows the variance in culture.According to "France Today," French singles primarily spend time in groups as friends.For the past few years, the media has seemed to be on a campaign to convince African-American women we are the unhealthiest, least educated, most undesirable, and least likely to get married women on the planet.

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